When parents strive to "love, honor and respect their children .... they will be parenting in the "best" way.
One morning, when it was time to be leaving for school, our youngest daughter started to sob uncontrollably. Not knowing at all what was wrong, I held and rocked her until calm settled in. The feelings a parent experiences in moments like this are like watching a pot boil over on the stove and being unable to stop it.
The problem, it seemed, was that she had signed my name to a homework assignment and then lied to her teacher when questioned as to whether I really had seen it. The guilt was overwhelming and she couldn't face her teacher that morning. At that moment, all she needed to know was that we loved her; in spite of having to deal with the falsehood and facing the teacher, feeling loved was what was most important.
A very verbal 2 1/2-year-old had a meltdown on Christmas Eve. "No Santa! No Santa in my house!" Dad, a deputy sheriff, got on his police phone and called Santa, asking him not to come to their house. Instead, he asked if he would please leave the presents at the sheriff's office and a deputy could bring them over. She immediately calmed down and Christmas was allowed to happen. What a wonderful story of respect for the concerns of his little girl.